Health, Happiness and Good Friends

The older I get, the more sure I am that our friendships are an important part of life. They can be powerful and influential relationships. Unlike family, we choose our friends. Because we get to choose our friends, friendships become a mirror reflecting back how healthy, happy and empowered we are living our lives. 

Children have “playmates,” women usually refer to close friends as “girlfriends” while men call friends “pals” or “buddies.”  We learn early in life that if our little friend takes all the toys, hits or yells, we don’t want to play anymore. 

True friendships are perceived as encouraging, empowering and usually an extension of our own personality. The key to a good friendship is that we usually choose “like-minded” friends. 

A good friend is someone you know, like and trust. For woman, friends are often confidants – someone to whom you tell your problems, secrets and dearest hopes and dreams. Friends become a supportive community that band together to encourage and sustain those hopes and dreams. A true friend also knows when to give you that gentle, or not so gentle, kick in the “motivation” when it’s necessary. 

Here are some synonyms for friendship: Harmony, accord, understanding and rapport. What’s your definition of friendship? 

Why am I going on and on about friendship? In my opinion, when we are without truly supportive friends, we are without a real-world support network that can keep us feeling grounded, happier and healthier. 

Psychotherapist Charles Farrell believes, “A good friend is someone that lets us be ourselves and hopefully encourages us to the best part of ourselves. I think they are a mirror of our values, sorrows and fun. And I’d like to emphasize, we all need our coffee friends to talk with, but we have to have fun with them too.  Without question they offer an opportunity for us to know ourselves.”

A study done a few years back in Australia showed that we live longer when we have a strong network of friends. Another states that women with close relationships are less likely to suffer from heart disease. 

Take a good look at your current friendships. Are your friends empowering, encouraging and honest with you? Do you feel better about yourself and your goals after you’ve spent time with friends? Are your friends supportive of your personal and professional growth? 

An empowering friendship is a win-win for everyone. True friendships allow you to be yourself – the “real” you that you share with those people you trust. An empowering friendship allows you to communicate your thoughts and feeling without fear of being judged or criticized. An empowering friendship is a gift to be treasured.

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Under Appreciating My Time

The other evening as I was leaving my office, I realized that I often take for granted how much I actual get done in a day. 

Some days as I’m turning out the light at my desk, I wonder where the day has gone and what did I do with all my time. Did I waste an entire day? 

Some weeks I can see the progress because it is obvious. It is obvious in those days when I’ve written a few chapters in my newest book, or the woman’s group I organize has a successful meeting or I conduct great coaching calls. It’s almost as if I have to actual see a major accomplishment before I’ll give myself credit for time well spent. 

I know under appreciating our own time and talents is common. I wonder why I’ve suddenly stopped giving myself credit for my day-to-day accomplishments? 

I realize from personal experience that if I stop appreciating my accomplishments my productivity goes down. I seem to do less because I’m not as motivated. 

Here’s what I’ve decided to do: 

1. Keep a journal of how I actually spend my time. I know that sounds like a lot of additional work, but if I’m not appreciating all that I do then may be it is time to actually document what I’m doing. I’ve decided to have daily calendar pages on my desk so each hour I can write out exactly what I’ve accomplished during the previous hour. 

2. Write my do-to list the night before. A to-do list is a great way to not only organize my day but it will help me focus on keeping the important things important. Trying to keep my to-do list in my head doesn’t work. I’m a visual and I need to see my tasks and goals on paper. I enjoy scratching off the things I’ve finished – it is visual confirmation of all the things I’ve accomplished during the day.

3. I’ve become more realistic about how I schedule my time. I realize that I feel as if I haven’t accomplished much when I “over schedule” my day. When I schedule thirty hours worth of work and expect to accomplish it in an eight hour workday. I’ve made it a point to become more realistic and conscious of “real world” time. Trying to do two days work in one day is emotionally and physically frustrating. 

I’ve decided that I’ve had enough with these time “mind games” and I’m going to appreciate all I do during my day. My time is valuable and I want to fully appreciate its value by honoring my accomplishments. I’ve begun praising myself instead of leaving my office frustrated. I believe when I appreciate my time, I appreciate myself as a worthy and deserving person.

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June’s Ups and Downs

My Dad in Life Magazine about 1941-42

We all have our emotional ups and downs – that’s life. The key is what we choose to do when the “down” days hit us hard. When we can’t seem to do the things that we know we should be doing or even those things we really enjoy doing. 

I’m not talking about depression; I’m talking about what my Grandma used to call the “doldrums.” When you don’t feel bad – you just don’t feel good. If you’ve ever been there, you know exactly what I’m talking about. 

June was one of those months for me – I think I was in the doldrums. I’d have spurts of energy and then it was gone. I felt worn out by 1:00 in the afternoon. I couldn’t find my creativity. I was functioning but I wasn’t my normal enthused self. I felt just plain tired! It was as if I was emotionally exhausted. 

I write a lot on the subject of self-sabotaging success. I looked carefully to see if that could have been the reason. After all, May had been one of the best months for my coaching and writing business. So during June was I feeling unworthy and undeserving? 

July is feeling great – I have energy, I’ve written six new articles and it is only the 5th of the month, I have all my Blog Talk Radio Women Enjoying Success broadcasts organized for the coming month and my Ezine is ready to go for the next week. I feel like I’m “back.” But, where did I go? 

When I look back at June, I realize I spent the majority of my time cleaning out the clutter. I cleaned out the closet of old clothes, the file cabinet of old and sometimes sad papers and, I cleared away old things that I’d been saving and no longer needed. Why I held on to them in the first place for so long I don’t really know.

It’s coming clearer – I’m going to the next positive phase in my life and in order to do that, I have to let go of some of the “baggage” of the past. It’s like a passage in life – clear out the clutter so I can invite in the new. It’s not always easy to let go of the past because it is so familiar. But honestly, what I threw away and let go of emotionally was no longer serving me today. Logically I know that, emotionally it doesn’t always come that easy. 

As I cleared out the closets, file cabinets and drawers I honored the past. I saved what had positive sentimental value to me. I safely tucked away a picture of my father in Life Magazine during  World War II, an old address book written in my mom’s handwriting, my great grandmother’s wedding ring and some other sentimental items. It’s time to make peace with past and go positively forward. I’ve decided to honor the past and head toward a future that I’m now creating. May be this is the first time in my life I’ve had the freedom to do that. 

It’s not always easy to change but there are times when it is necessary. I understand my doldrums a little better now – it’s like a right of passage for my soul. Honor the past so I can go forward. Just writing this I feel lighter and more optimistic. Thank you for listening.

P.S. I just this minute received an email from Amazon.com with the subject line: Happiness Is Here. The email contains a list of seven “On The Bright Side Books.” Okay universe, I hear you and I’m taking it to heart!

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A Woman’s War Journal

Those who read my blog regularly know that I love history – especially the history of strong resourceful women. I came across this “journal” and wanted to share it with you. To me it shows the resilency and inner determination of women who lived through hard times.

This excerpt is taken from “A Woman’s War Journal” which was kept during the Civil War. The author Dolly Sumner Lunt (Mrs Thomas Burge) shares her thoughts, feelings and insights during these unsure times in the state of Georgia.

A Woman’s Wartime Journal
An account of the passage over a Georgia plantation of Sherman’s army on the march to the sea, as recorded in the diary of Dolly Sumner Lunt.

Published in 1918

Mrs. Burge (Dolly Sumner Lunt) was born September 29, 1817, in Bowdoinham, Maine. As a young woman she moved from Maine to Georgia, where her married sister was already settled.

While teaching school in Covington she met Thomas Burge, a plantation-owner and gentleman of the Old South, and presently married him.  When some years later Mr. Burge died, Mrs. Burge was left on the plantation with her little daughter Sarah (the “Sadai” of the journal). Less than three years after she was widowed the Civil War broke out, and in 1864 this cultivated and charming woman saw Sherman’s army pass across her fields on the March to the Sea. 

JULY 22, 1864.
[The day of the battle of Atlanta]
We have heard the loud booming of cannon all day. Mr. Ward [the overseer] went over to the burial of Thomas Harwell, whose death I witnessed yesterday. They had but just gone when the Rev. A. Turner, wife, and daughter drove up with their wagons, desiring to rest awhile. They went into the ell [a large back room] and lay down, I following them, wishing to enjoy their company. Suddenly I saw the servants running to the palings, and I walked to the door, when I saw such a stampede as I never witnessed before. The road was full of carriages, wagons, men on horseback, all riding at full speed. Judge Floyd stopped, saying: “Mrs. Burge, the Yankees are coming. They have got my family, and here is all I have upon earth.
Hide your mules and carriages and whatever valuables you have.”

Sadai [Mrs. Burge's nine-year-old daughter] said:
“Oh, Mama, what shall we do?”

“Never mind, Sadai,” I said. “They won’t hurt you, and you must help me hide my things.”

I went to the smoke-house, divided out the meat to the servants, and bid them hide it. Julia took a jar of lard and buried it. In the meantime Sadai was taking down and picking up our clothes, which she was giving to the servants to hide in their cabins; silk dresses, challis, muslins, and merinos, linens, and hosiery, all found their way into the chests of the women and under their beds; china and silver were buried underground, and Sadai bid Mary hide a bit of soap under some bricks, that mama might have a little left. Then she came to me with a part of a loaf of bread, asking if she had not better put it in her pocket, that we might have something to eat that night. And, verily, we had cause to fear that we might be homeless, for on every side we could see smoke arising from burning buildings and bridges.

Major Ansley, who was wounded in the hip in the battle of Missionary Ridge, and has not recovered, came with his wife, sister, two little ones, and servants. He was traveling in a bed in a small wagon. They had thought to get to Eatonton, but he was so wearied that they stopped with me for the night. I am glad to have them. I shall sleep none to-night. The woods are full of refugees.

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The Power of Networking



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Networking With Like-Minded Women

There is synergy and energy when like-minded women come together to network and mastermind.


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Living In Gratitude

 

How often do you make time to tell and show the people you love and respect (including yourself) how grateful you’re feeling?

Today is the perfect time to begin practicing the “art” of gratitude.

Here are a few suggestions:

1. Begin and maintain a gratitude journal. Here’s a wonderful place to begin collecting the positive memories of those proud moments that occurred during your day.

2. Make a special effort to say “thank you” more often. Everyone loves to be appreciated.

3. Pick up the phone and call someone to let them know how much you appreciate them.

4. Make a list of at least 50 things/people/opportunities for which you are thankful. Feel the joy of having those things/people/opportunities in your life. You can add this list to your gratitude journal.

5. Expect to be grateful. A positive mental attitude expects to attract and enjoy the positives of life.

Research has shown that people who experience gratitude frequently tend to be happier, more helpful and forgiving, and less depressed than those who are less grateful and thankful.

I’d like to share three of my favorite gratitude quotations:

“Our favorite attitude should be gratitude.” Zig Ziglar

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”  Brian Tracy

 ”Gratitude is the heart’s memory.” French Proverb

What are your thoughts about gratitude? Please share them with us.

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Sharon’s VIP MasterMind Group

I have a new VIP MasterMind Group forming June, 2010 – come join me!

Take a listen and look. You’ll want to join other success-oriented and like-minded women who have decided to take themselves and their business to the next success level. http://www.goingforsuccess.com

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There’s a special that is time sensitive so you’ll want to act quickly:

The “I’m serious about success” offer:

Register with either the payment plan or full payment before Saturday, June 1 at midnight and I’ll add one extra one-on-one coaching session with me per month during your VIP MasterMind program – that’s two personalized coaching session per month for six months. Those coaching sessions will be an empowering boost to keeping you focused on moneymaking activities.

I invite you to apply for my next VIP MasterMind Group beginning in mid-June, 2010. Here’s the link to read more and to apply: http://goingforsuccess.com

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Your Mind Is A Powerful Success Tool

This story has been around the Internet for a few years and the original author is unknown. I’m posting it because I believe the message is worth sharing.

The next time you hear or see an airplane or travel on one, remember where it all started. A simply idea conceived in the minds of two young men who did not finish high school. Believe it or not, they did not have a University degree in Aeronautical Engineering, Mathematics, Physics or any other subject. They were not scientists in the true sense of the word. In fact, many of their peers who did not witness their accomplishment, had trouble believing that two bicycle mechanics from Dayton, Ohio did what they claimed.

Back in the 19th century two brothers had an idea that eventually became their passionate and consuming dream. Their relentless pursuit of that dream was rewarded with an accomplishment that changed world travel.

On Friday December 17, 1903 at 10:35 AM, the Wright brothers (Wilbur and Orville) achieved their dream. They flew “the world’s first power-driven, heavier-than-air machine in which man made free, controlled, and sustained flight.” This memorable feat took place at Kitty Hawk, North Carolina on a cold windy morning.

The dream started with an idea that was planted in their minds by a toy given to them by their father. In the words of the boys, “Late in the autumn of 1878, our father came into the house one evening with some object partly concealed in his hands, and before we could see what it was, he tossed it into the air. Instead of falling to the floor, as we expected, it flew across the room till it struck the ceiling, where it fluttered awhile, and finally sank to the floor.” This simple toy made of bamboo, cork and stretched rubber bands, fascinated the Wright brothers and sparked their lifelong interest in human flight.

The Wright brothers were great thinkers. They enjoyed learning new things. Initially, they recycled broken parts, built a printing press and opened their own printing office. Their interest moved to bicycles and in 1893, they opened the Wright Cycle Company where they sold and repaired bicycles. But Wilbur (the older brother) had his mind set on something more exciting. He decided to seriously pursue flying.

The brothers spent many hours researching, testing their machines and making improvements after unsuccessful attempts at human flight. What started out as a hobby soon became a passion. With determination and patience they realized their dream in 1903.

The next time you hear or see an airplane or travel on one, remember where it all started. A simply idea conceived in the minds of two young men who did not finish high school. Believe it or not, they did not have a University degree in Aeronautical Engineering, Mathematics, Physics or any other subject. They were not scientists in the true sense of the word. In fact, many of their peers who did not witness their accomplishment, had trouble believing that two bicycle mechanics from Dayton, Ohio did what they claimed.

Do you have an idea, a concept or an invention that could change history? Is it time to venture out of your comfort zone and go for you goals? Honestly, what do you have to lose?

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Meet My Mentor Oscar



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Meet my mentor Oscar!

Our mini-dachshund Oscar is my inspiration and mentor because he never gave up, no matter the hardships.


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A Success Story – Burt’s Bees

My philosophy is: Why reinvent the wheel? If we can learn from highly successful women who had a vision and turned that vision into a multi-million reality, I say we’d be crazy not to listen and learn.

This is one of my favorite success stories: Roxanne Quimby of Burt’s Bees.

From living without electricity in 1984 to earning over $300 million as owner of Burt’s Bee’s, there are several wealth-building lessons we can learn from Roxanne Quimby.

I’ve discovered some common threads among self-made wealthy women:

  • They are often looking for a financially better way for their family and themselves
  • They never lose sight of what’s important in their life
  • They are willing to take risks and chances
  • They stay true to their core values and beliefs
  • They are determined give back.

Let’s see how Roxanne Quimby’s road to financial success compares to other self-made wealthy women.

1. They are often looking for a financially better future for their family and themselves.

Roxanne attributes the success she experienced at Burt’s Bees to being a mother. In 1984 she was a divorced mother of two children living on thirty acres in rural northern Maine. Home was a small cabin with no electricity. Washing diapers for her twins meant heating water on a wood-burning stove. She loved her rugged way of life.

This rustic lifestyle was her choice, not her children’s. She soon realized that living as a rustic artist was not exposing her children to the “real world.” She recognized that living so remotely could limit her children’s choices in life and knew she’d have to make some financial changes.

One day, she bought some honey from Burt and saw a business opportunity. The rest, as they say, is history.

2. They never lose sight of what’s important in their life.

Roxanne Quimby loves a challenge! She chose to live in the Maine woods because she’d have to rely solely on her own skills and talents. Living simply exemplified her philosophy that money is a resource, not a way of living life.

Roxanne knew she would always be self-employed for many reasons. Two of those reasons are the same as so many other self-employed women; 1.) She’s a very independent person, and 2.) She could spend time with her two children.

With Burt’s Bees, she found a way to stay true to what was important in her life – her children, her love of nature, and her independent artistic spirit.

3. They are willing to take risks and chances.

The unwavering confidence Roxanne Quimby had in what she believed to be important, grew Burt’s Bees from a $200 a weekend crafts fair/flea market business into a multi-million dollar corporation.

With her artistic talent, Roxanne took Burt’s honey and began packaging it in little beehive jars adorned with pretty hand-made labels. She started using the beeswax to make homemade candles and sold them to tourists. Next came the beeswax lip balm. Then came the natural skin care products. By 1993 Burt’s Bees was making over $3 million annually.

In the beginning, the corporate offices were housed and the manufacturing done in an old school house she and Burt rented for $150 a year.

Ms. Quimby often said that there is a tremendous amount of “fear” in growing a business but it’s worth it when you see your work pay off financially, socially and personally.

4. They stay true to their core values and beliefs.

Roxanne is passionate about preserving and living in harmony with nature.

Burt’s Bees is a refection of that passion. Her business model is referred to as the “greater good” model. That means the company’s philosophy and policies must be aimed at social responsibility. Burt’s Bees prides itself on engaging only in environmentally friendly practices.

5. They are determined to give back.

Self-made wealthy women seem to have a passionate desire to give back to others. How would you guess Roxanne Quimby chooses to give back?

You’re right, by preserving nature.

Today she is purchasing acres and acres of Maine timberland, seashore and buildings of historical importance. She’s then turning most of it over to the state of Maine for parks and nature reserves. She’s also begun partnering with the Nature Conservancy.

She says her life is simple – beans and rice. But she enjoys the challenge of business and money is just the scorecard. She’s on a mission to use her money to save and preserve the beauty of nature.

There are lessons we can learn from the self-made success of Roxanne Quimby.

Here is a woman who reluctantly began making money. She would have rather lived in the Maine woods with no electricity than go out into the corporate world. She did make money and in fact she became wealthy.

Impressively, she is able to stay true to her core values, beliefs and most importantly, to herself. Roxanne’s Quimby’s wealth has become an extension of her unwavering confidence in what she believes to be important.

**I originally published this article in 2008 on BellaOnline.com when I was the Abundance and Wealth editor.**

 

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